No parent wants to discover that their child is being bullied. The long-term effects of bullying can be paralyzing to a child’s mental health. Children deserve to be safe and happy; as a student it is their right to feel safe and free from bullying at school – they are there to learn and create lifelong memories, nothing else. As parents you want the best for your child and any loving parent will do anything for their children but the reality is that parents cannot always be by a child’s side all-the-time; it sucks, yes. But there are steps that can help squash this type of abuse, bring a bully to light and to equip your child with tools that help him/her conquer their bullies.
What Is Being Bullied?
Bullying is when a person seeks to harm, intimidate, or coerce (someone perceived as vulnerable). This happens in many forms, the most common is the physical and verbal assault at schools or common areas. Cyberbullying, however, is becoming a more prevalent now that many tweens and teenagers are going online via mobile phones.
If Your Child Is Being Bullied at School
The moment you learn or sense that your child is being bullied you should notify the teachers. If the teachers don’t act quick enough, then notify the principal and the counselor. Many schools now, have anti-bullying programs setup. If they don’t, you should insist that a program is created to deter this type of behavior. The bully in question should be called in to speak to the school’s disciplinary or consoler. As a parent of the victim, you should demand to be looped in to learn what, if anything, will come out of the questioning. Will there be any disciplinary actions? Will the bully need to attend any anger management classes? Are the bully’s parents aware of their child’s behavior?
Communication is paramount between parents and teachers and children and parents. Without communication any hope for resolutions will be futile.
How To Protect Your Child from Bullies
When all the appropriate steps and channels have been taken to prevent bullying doesn’t work your child will need to stand up for themselves. Albeit, this isn’t an ideal situation but it is a necessary one for his/her future growth. Without standing up to a present and viable conflict your child will most likely always backdown from any type of conflict that arises in their adult lives.
Equip them to be conscious and self-reliant.
Conscious of themselves and the others that surround them. By being conscious of themselves they understand that they matter, they are loved, and they are heard. Bullying can be detrimental to one’s psyche. When they are bullied a child will feel shame and self-doubt. As parents you have the ability to make your children feel empowered, give them a foundation of high self-esteem, and make them aware that no one has the right to harm them or bring them down – this is being mindful parents.
Being self-reliant means to learn to be able to speak for themselves and defend themselves. They have to know that being bullied is not acceptable. Teach your children how to communicate what is happening to them and not shy away or be scared to speak out. If someone hurts them or calls them names, let them know it is ok for them to tell their teachers or counselors. If there is no adult to help and they’re in danger of being hurt, tell them it is their duty to protect themselves by any means necessary. Teach your kids how to fight.
Self-defense classes like martial arts teaches kids how to defend themselves from bullies and strangers that may want to harm them or their friends. By enrolling your child in a martial arts class, you’re steering them in the right direction. As many martial arts schools teach kids how to have a good self-image and to protect themselves. They’ll teach kids how to throw a punch and to have a healthy self-worth, which will follow them into adulthood.